Soul Ties & Twin Flames
Have you ever felt such a strong connection to someone that you physically feel different when they aren’t around you? When they are upset, your energy is off? You feel like you’ve known them or their soul for a million lifetimes?
I don’t just mean romantic relationships, but have you felt this in friendships? And I don’t mean just being an empath but feeling so much more intensely than that.
If you have… you’ve probably experienced a soul tie or met your twin flame.
Some may use these terms interchangeably they are very different. (did you know soul mates can come in the form of someone you’ve never been sexually involved with?)
Most of the time soul tie relationships are so very toxic. And because we feel so deeply, we never realize the toxicity that surrounds them. Sometimes we are so blind to the chaos that we welcome it, knowing full well that the whirlwind leaves us feeling exhausted & drained. And even though we should be feeling amazing in their presence, sometimes, we just don’t.
I’m sure at least some of you can resonate with this feeling and maybe you’ve never understood the why behind it.
So, Let’s talk about it.
The connection between soul ties is considered to be binding. They are assumed to be formed through interactions shared between two people, typically through sex, that can create such a strong intimate connection that you don’t even realize it’s been formed until you physically yearn for them in their absence. There are three different types of soul ties. Physical, Emotional and Social. Sometimes, one person can hold all three.
Jade was my first true soul tie. Although our relationship was unhealthy and not all soul ties are. She was the combination of all three wrapped into one chaotic mess that I felt I couldn’t live without. Physically, I was vulnerable with her. I allowed her to become a part of my physical body. I allowed her to into the fortress I had created for my physical self, a body that had been abused for most of my life. With that came an undeniable amount of trust. Emotionally, I had shared all of the secrets I kept locked inside the heart I had surrounded in stone for protection. I had exposed all the truths that I knew could make her choose to not love me but trusted her to choose me regardless. Socially, I knew that our bond was unbreakable. I had poured my heart and soul out to her, I had spent hours melting into her words of love, acceptance and support.
I had never felt so accepted, so loved, so safe, so cherished, and so appreciated until my soul met hers. Through drug addiction, living on the streets, taking my clothes off for money, and even running away from her when all the emotion felt like to much… we always came back to each other. It was unspoken conversation between our souls that just knew without each other we’d never survive. (It turns out, that was the truth) I felt safest when I was with her, I felt happiest when I was with her and the wholeness I felt in my soul when I was with her was addictive. Just as addictive as the drug habit we were both entangled with. But with those happy feelings came jealousy, emptiness when we weren’t together, and because we both were fighting our addiction & at the same time embracing it, life was exhausting.
Did you know that 1 is considered the strongest number in numerology??? It is considered to be the number of great power. Doubling the number (11) intensifies this power to an unimaginable limit. Which is why 11/11 is twin flame day! When two halves come together to create the infinite power of one- chaos and beauty combine.
A twin flame shares some of the same aspects of the emotional connection you experience with a soul tie. The main difference being your connection to this person is more spiritual and emotional than it is physical. Not to say you cannot end up in a physical relationship with your twin flame, it has surely happened, however it almost always ends badly. Let me explain why!
The concept of a twin flame is that one soul has been split into two different bodies and become whole upon finding their other half. (1 meets 1 and becomes 11) This type of relationship can cause such an intense feeling that the pull from inside of you to be in this person’s presence is almost impossible to separate from. This is why an intimate relationship typically fails. The intensity of being connected can cause such intense emotions that it can actually exhaust what you have to give for other people. And because the soul that lives within that person is the other half of you, when you are battling, you are battling yourself (could you imagine fighting with, essentially yourself, every day?) However, there are times when finding and dating your twin flame can turn into a powerhouse of learning, growth, self-reflection and change. Communication skills are considerably important when choosing to involve yourself on an intimate level with a twin flame.
Sometimes, your twin flame can be found in the form of a friend. Someone who you’ve felt you’ve known for a million lifetimes, someone who you immediately form a connection with, and someone who you plan to have in your life forever, just not on an intimate level. These relationships are typically unbreakable, through hell and highwater their relationship will prevail.
Opposite of these is what we typically call a soul mate…
A soulmate is typically your balance. The personal whose qualities, temperament and upbringing match yours. Their values and goals align with yours and you share an innate understanding and connection with one another that allows you a sort of “yin & yang” type of relationship. Each person gives and receives in an equal amount, allowing the relationship to flow in a natural and healthy way. These relationships are the ones that usually last a lifetime. The ones that seem almost perfect in every way. They are a supportive and compassionate type of love that promotes wellbeing. These are the relationships we form that “make sense” for our future. The type of partner you want to build a family with trust to own a home with and could “settle down” with.
Now that you know a little more about what each of these terms signify think about if you’ve ever experienced any of them. Hold space for yourself in the moment while you process the feelings attached to each one. The emotions and vibrations that come with each of your thoughts have contributed to your growth today, give yourself grace and acceptance through that.
And follow along because next I’m going to tell you all the good and the bad about Jade.
And how one relationship not only destroyed me but also saved my life.
